10 Differences Between Love And Infatuation
Difference between love and infatuation: Emotions are characteristically human. Chief among them is ‘love’ in all its myriads of types and manifestations. However, because romantic love manifests in ways quite similar to the way ‘infatuation’ manifests itself, people tend to confuse the two concepts.
In our everyday associations, infatuation can easily be mistaken for love because both convey a sense of intense passion. But are they really the same? It is important then that the nuances in both concepts are presented so that you can tell apart not only your own emotions but those of others around you, at least according to the manner in which they affect us.
Love and Infatuation
Love is when you care very strongly and very deeply about another person. When you love someone, you are there to support them, you work together to solve problems, you’re willing to stand by this person in good times and bad, and you wish nothing more than to watch and help this person grow.
Infatuation has a few great things going for it too. Infatuation gives you goosebumps. It puts that silly smile on your face that you can’t seem to shake. It fills your mind with wonderful daydreams. And, of course, many love relationships start out as infatuation.
Notable Differences Between Love And Infatuation
1. Possessiveness: If the singular desire of the significant other is to possess or own a person and rule over their time and pleasures, then that is likely Infatuation. Love in its patience seeks rather open the significant other to freedom and liberty to command their own self and time.
2. The Ticking Time Bomb: Infatuation manifests as a ticking time-bomb. The urgent haste with which this emotion plays out is stupendous. Everything has to happen now. Love knows how to bid its time. There is no ready explosion waiting to happen.
3. Depth: There is an inherent depth to love that infatuation does not possess. Love is said to reach in to the deepest reaches of a person while infatuation is known to linger on the surface, hence predisposing wantonness based on superficial attractions…
4. Gratification: Infatuation often proceeds heedlessly to a point where what is mostly desired is the gratification of selfish desires of the infatuated. Where love has the ‘significant other’ as its object of affection and solicitude. Infatuation has the ‘self’, being constantly in dire need of personal gratification.
5. Lustfulness: Of course you can love someone and desire them sexually. This is normal. However, in this scenario, sex serves a deeply fulfilling and emotionally gratifying purpose. Someone who is infatuated has sex as a primary purpose, owing to the fact that the attraction in itself is based on the intense appeal of superficiality.
6. The Whole Package: Love is so complete an emotion that it accepts or attempts to accept and reconcile the whole of a person’s personality, character, traits, likes, dislikes, flaws, etc. Infatuation, being a partial and fleeting emotion however, can only accept those aspects of a person that appeal to the sexual or superficial desires of the infatuated.
7. Demanding: Many relationships today are packed with infatuated individuals constantly hankering for more and more of their significant other’s energies.
It is a typical sign of infatuation where one or more of the parties involved are demanding to the point where it is easily deducible that all they’re mostly after is what they stand to gain.
8. Brimming Passions: You know that period when individuals – either before or after they get into a relationship – fuss passionately about each other? That phase is usually a phase of infatuation. Sometimes it settles into love. Other times, as most often happens, it burns brightly and quickly dissipates.
9. Attachment: Infatuated people are known to feel an overarching need to attach themselves to the objects of their infatuation – most often leading to unhealthy periods of parasitism, which likely causes problems later in the relationship.
10. Security: An infatuated person is never secure. The grand haste that drives them births all sorts of jealous insecurities and doubts that may revolve around an unhealthy need to ascertain securities that one may not have even earned.
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