17 Ways to Make a Narcissist Really Fear You

Being in a relationship with a narcissist, whether they are your significant other, friend, family member, boss, or coworker, can be draining.

The criteria were defined by the American Psychological Association (APA) in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). I had to skillfully strategize to beat him at his own game in order to make him fear me and remove him from my life.

You’ll agree that a narcissist is not good for you in any way. To escape their clutches, you must understand how to make a narcissist fear you, and I’m about to share 17 effective tactics with you.

What is a Narcissist? 

A narcissist is someone who exhibits behavioral characteristics that are similar to those found in people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). The mental disorder, also known as narcissism, is distinguished by a lifelong pattern of specific negative behaviors, most notably an exaggerated sense of self-importance (grandiosity).

Another distinguishing feature is an excessive need for admiration, power, and control, as well as a sense of entitlement and a lack of empathy.

Narcissists are often described as selfish, arrogant, and manipulative. In short, they believe they are superior to everyone else and will not hesitate to show it.

While narcissists try hard to give off every implication of success and confidence to others, they still struggle with significant inner fears. When you understand what makes narcissists tick and what they fear, you can reclaim your power.

Why Dealing With a Narcissist is Bad for You

People with narcissistic traits or tendencies form relationships that are primarily superficial and intended to boost their low self-esteem.

Perhaps this explains why they have a habit of attaching themselves to vulnerable targets like empaths and people with status or special abilities.

Empaths are typically caring and compassionate individuals who will go to great lengths to please others. These characteristics provide the narcissist with high-quality “fuel.”

Attention, validation, money, sex, and social status are all examples of narcissistic supply, and they will go to any length to obtain them from you.

The narc appears charming at first, but this is just a ploy to get you to lower your guard while they groom you for exploitation.

Once they have you, they will launch into full-fledged narcissistic abuse, employing gaslighting, lies, blame-shifting, intimidation, and other manipulation techniques.

These are emotional and psychological assaults that make you doubt yourself or feel unworthy.

17 Ways to Make a Narcissist Really Afraid of You

The secret to making a narcissist fear you is to cause narcissistic injuries by focusing on things they dislike or fear and depriving them of their narcissistic supply. Narc supply is anything you give them that makes them feel valuable.

You can complete this mission by employing the following scare tactics. Most importantly, maintain consistency and reinforce each of these until the exploiter wishes they had never met you.

1. Bring their Narcissism to Light

Isn’t it past time you stopped acting nice and called out the jerk? Inform them that you are aware that they are a pathological liar and cheater who employs gaslighting tactics to convince you that you are paranoid.

Expose their multiple aliases designed for scams and deceit and living double lives. Presenting them with findings will bring their false world crashing down.

They’ll feel humiliated, powerless, and terrified that you’ll tell everyone who matters what a horrible person they are.

2. Implement Consequences

Take it a step further and impose penalties for boundary violations and disrespect. If you impose limits on a narc, they will violate them ten times out of ten.

First and foremost, they do not follow the rules. Second, they break them to make you angry so they can accuse you of being “overreacting” or “crazy.”

These terms are frequently used to deceive you. Gaslighting is a type of emotional abuse that is intended to make you doubt your own sanity.

Don’t be alarmed. Declare the boundary violation and then proceed with the punishment. Fear arises from the possibility of punishment or falling from grace.

I promise you, they will think twice before repeating that error.

3. Hold them Responsible

These entitled people dislike being questioned, having to explain themselves, and having to admit their mistakes.

Knowing they’re wrong and having to apologize shatters their false belief that they are always right and superior to everyone else.

When they try to avoid responsibility for failing to do chores or engaging in unacceptable behavior, ask questions and hold them accountable.

They’ll eventually get their act together in order to avoid the consequences.

4. Challenge them

Knowing that narcs are inherently arrogant, you can use this to your advantage by becoming a challenge yourself.

If they claim to be good at a certain game, challenge and defeat them. They despise losing and will act like a child.

Question their beliefs. Use facts and evidence to show that they don’t know everything. Expose their lies and exaggerated claims about their achievements, and back them up with evidence. Uh-oh! They’ll quickly realize you’re not someone to mess with.

5. Say No

Narcs are accustomed to getting their way through deception, deflection, and manipulation. Tell them “No,” “Not today,” or “I’m not going to do that,” and watch them squirm.

They will try to persuade or bully you into meeting their wants and needs. Maintain your position!

This tantrum-throwing human will go insane if you do not comply with their demands for your time, resources, or some narcissistic supply.

Saying no is interpreted as rejection, and they despise it. It causes narcissistic injury and sends a clear message that they are powerless over you.

6. Set and Enforce Boundaries

The energy vampire dislikes and disregards boundaries. How else will they be able to manipulate and control you? So, what better way to make me fear you than by erecting formidable defensive barriers? Boundaries!

Make it clear what you will not tolerate. Inform them that your boundaries are not negotiable and that they will face consequences if they violate them.

When they try to break the boundaries, reinforce them and create new ones where they find loopholes. When they realize you’ve had it with their nonsense, they’ll finally obey your rules out of fear.

7. Ignore them

If they still see you as a good source of narcissistic supply, the self-centered individual may put on a show of respecting your boundaries.

Use the ignore method, which is different from the silent treatment tactic they use to punish you, to add salt to their wound.

Your objective is to instill fear and gain the respect you deserve. Be warned: they’ll become enraged and will do anything to get attention.

Flowers and gifts may be delivered to your door (love bombing).

Don’t be taken in by the hoovering. It’s a clever ploy to draw you back in. They’ll return to their nasty ways as soon as you acknowledge them.

8. Show Strength and Confidence

Appearing emotionally weak and easily triggered around the narc gives them the impression that they have you under control.

The egomaniac will be scared away if you rebuild your self-esteem by repeating affirmations and interacting confidently.

They will become jealous, insecure, and enraged if you emerge strong and confident after they have tried to break you.

Fear will arise because the risk of losing you has increased now that you’ve discovered their schemes.

9. Deprive them of Empathy

Empathy is the ability to recognize and respond to the needs of those around you. The narc is aware that you are an empath, which is why they chose you in the first place.

You are a prime source of narcissistic supply as an empath. They’re empty shells that feed off your good vibes.

They preyed on you by making you feel sorry for them and offer love and support. Take your loving kindness away.

The liar, cheater, and manipulator does not deserve it. They will become fearful because they will no longer be able to manipulate your emotions to meet their selfish needs.

10. Don’t Pay them Any Attention

These people will go to any length to be noticed. According to Melanie Tonia Evans, founder of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program, your attention is a valuable narcissistic supply. T

hey’ll take any attention, positive or negative, because fuel is fuel for the narc.

They’ll hover and fish for compliments in the hopes of boosting their inflated self-esteem.

When they come, act unimpressed and uninterested, hoping for admiration and validation for something they’re saying about themselves.

They will feel deflated and unworthy as a result of this nonverbal defensive move. They’ll wonder why you’re not paying attention to them and will be concerned about running out of supplies.

11. Block, Delete, Bye!

If the narc isn’t your parent, child, or someone you have children with, you should be able to pull this off easily. You can disable them on your phone, apps, and social media accounts.

This is your ultimate rejection of the narcissist who takes pride in undervaluing and discarding their targets first.

By blocking them out of your life, you are making it difficult for them to hoover and suck you back in. It’s the ultimate way to make them fear you and never want to see you again.

12. Confront them With Statements of Facts

A narcissist has a fear of being discovered for who they really are, which is an image they may only project to their targets, but you can get out of their bullseye by using less emotion and more facts.

Use extreme caution when doing this, as if you get too emotional or defensive, this will cause them to have power over you again.

However, if you show very little emotion, state facts about why you are distancing yourself from them, and don’t raise your voice doing it or get upset, they will fear being found out for what they really are and leave you alone.

They despise being criticized and do expect this tactic to end the relationship. You can only do this when you are ready to get them out of your life and are sure you are not going to suffer any retaliation.

13. Break the Trauma Bond

Narcissists use intermittent reinforcement by being wonderful for a period of time and then suddenly becoming horrible. This provides the narcissist with a physiological hook.

The best way to break the trauma bond is to avoid contact.

If that isn’t an option, you can become distant in your interactions with them. When you show them little emotion, whether they are wonderful or horrible, they will realize you are no longer bound or controlled by them.

14. Public Humiliation

Instill panic and dread by subjecting them to public humiliation, which they greatly fear. They will go to any length to protect the public image they have created.

Taking them to court (for legitimate reasons) is a legal and effective way of putting them in their place.

People will finally be able to see the chameleon for what it is: a devious, deceitful, and calculating individual.

That will be a devastating blow to their fragile ego and will elicit feelings they are deathly afraid of—shame and embarrassment.

15. Criticism

Even though they appear to be invincible, narcissists have extremely thin skin. They can’t handle rejection, but they also despise criticism, even if it’s meant to help them improve.

If you offer constructive criticism whenever they make a mistake, they will become defensive or lash out. Criticism destroys their self-esteem because they see it as a threat to their false superior, all-knowing self-image.

16. Rejection

Rejection causes significant narcissistic injury and is one of the top ten things narcissists fear. They can’t handle it, no matter how minor.

Remember, they have a sense of entitlement and take pride in rejecting and discarding their victims.

Reject everything they offer, including ideas, opinions, gifts, and feelings, as well as requests to spend time together.

They will feel insufficient, inferior, unlovable, and invalidated. When used consistently, this strategy can be a powerful deterrent. They’ll be unable to withstand the constant bruising of their inflated ego.

17. Strengthen Your Support Network

A narcissist must isolate you from those who love and support you in order to successfully manipulate and control you.

As a result, it scares them when they see you banding together with friends and loved ones who genuinely care about you.

If at all possible, limit your interaction to times when your friends and family can support you. In this situation, the manipulator has a more difficult time exerting control over you.

In fact, they’ll act nice because they’re afraid you’ll expose them and cause them shame and embarrassment.

18. Take Back Control

The manipulator gradually and methodically deprives you of control over your life. You might not realize what’s going on until they’ve taken your money, moved into your house, and taken over various aspects of your life.

Take control and become more assertive to make them fear you. They despise losing control because it means they can’t manipulate and emotionally abuse you any longer.

Final Thoughts on How to Make a Narcissist Fear You

I’ve used these techniques successfully to instill fear in a narcissist who wouldn’t leave me alone. Target what they despise and fear. Starve them of the things (the fuel) that allow them to thrive in your presence, such as attention, validation, admiration, love, and money.

If you do this, they will not only be afraid of you… Starvation, on the other hand, will cause them to shrivel, wither, and die.

To further protect yourself, read about the 8 Strange Things Narcissists Do to Manipulate People. You are not alone, and you no longer have to put up with it!

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CSN Team.